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“Communication is SO key.” –the great social philosopher and former Disney star, Ashley Tisdale.
Human communication, or how we use our verbal messages (language) and non-verbal actions, is very powerful. Yet, like fish missing water, most people take communication for granted, assuming that possession of ears and a working mouth is all that is needed for successful communication. Or more dangerously, we progress through our communication landscape mindlessly like bulls in a precious china shop, leaving devastation in our wake. Communication mistakes are easy to make and can be personally, interpersonally, and professionally costly.
The messages we send are the spells we use to create or destroy the reality we experience. It is our communication to ourselves that empowers or disempowers us; making communication critical to our personal well-being. Many metaphysical techniques rely on positive communication and the power of words to accomplish great energetic shifts in our lives. Communication is the social currency that we use to initiate and manage all of our relationships. Anyone who has said something cruel or thoughtless in a relationship knows how destructive a simple string of a few words can be. Words, if used mindfully and ethically, can be the fertile soil for love to bloom. Yet using a negative word is like throwing a grenade into the shelter of your love, potentially causing irreparable damage. Research done by John Gottman and colleagues finds that for every ONE negative comment you make in a relationship, FIVE positive comments are required just to balance things out! It is so easy to destroy something so precious that you have to work extra hard to repair the situation. Understanding how to manage interpersonal communication will improve your chances of having satisfying and healthy friendships, romantic relationships, and families.
Communication is also the vehicle we use to navigate our interactions at work. Try holding onto a job if you are difficult to get along with or careless in your communication. Communication is the ticket we have to participation in the public sphere. It is through communication that we influence others and the world around us. Critical thinking, informed citizens, and civil discourse are the ways that we will have a chance to solve the looming problems that threaten our society.
Fortunately, the interdisciplinary field of communication studies (generating its own theory and also pulling theory into communication contexts from English, philosophy, psychology, sociology, anthropology, and Rhetoric) offers a vast body of literature on human communication and what it takes to be communicatively competent. Where there is communication occurring, there is often some communication researcher studying it. Sometimes in surprising ways, what we assume to be true about how communication functions does not match what is found in the research, so it is good to check the data instead of just relying on stereotypes. Spiritual traditions and metaphysical thought systems also address the ethical and authentic use of communication, and can provide a higher level of understanding to complement modern social scientific findings.
In this regular column on the Anjana Network, I will provide quick communication tutorials that you can apply to your everyday interactions. My approach to communication is deeply rooted in social scientific research, with an occasional metaphysical twist! Communication is just a series of neutral tools; it is up to us to use communication wisely. And it is through knowledge based on research and the writings of spiritual thought leaders that we can make wise and strategic decision to use the magic of communication to create the personal, interpersonal, and public lives that manifest our dreams.
While trying on clothes at a retail store lately, this point was dramatically displayed in the stall next to mine.
A beautiful, physically fit woman in her early fifties was talking with her younger counterpart – a woman in her early twenties. “Oh, if only I could lose five more pounds,” she said pensively. She stared at her washboard abs sadly. “Men only like skinny women.”
I wanted to come leaping out of my stall grab her by the shoulders and have a heart to heart. I wanted to say “Darling, you are perfect and beautiful. If you have not found a man that has fallen in love with your soul, keep looking!”
Moving to a second store, I was surprised to run into the same two women in the dressing room. Again, the conversation turned to a diatribe of self loathing. This time the young woman piped up replying “You are beautiful. You have a womanly body ripe with curves.”
I wanted to applaud.
YES! Be grateful for your body, it is your temple. Your physical form is the sanctuary that houses your soul. Surround yourselves with worshipers who will delight in your presence. It is time that we love and respect ourselves, especially while on the road to self improvement. Be your own source of encouragement.
When it comes time to selecting your mate, choose when you are at the height of your self esteem. Choose someone who reflects you at your best. True self esteem is connected to your core, not the superficial. Self-acceptance comes from truly looking at yourself, even the shadow-self, forgiving and embracing it all with love.
When I am asked why I am still single, I am quick to reply with a smile. “I believe I will find someone when I am at the height of my self esteem. Apparently there’s still a little room for improvement!” This usually catches people off guard at first, but after my truth resonates with them they say “WOW, I really like that. You are so positive and happy!”
YES! Yes I am!
The journey of self discovery is amazing and I am happily counting my blessings. In fact, I think more people would be happy if they did just that.
Count your blessings. Life is a wonderful experience and I promise when you leave this plane, no one that loves you will notice if you take an extra five pounds with you. They will, however remember how you felt about yourself. They will remember if you were happy or if you were critical.
Deliciousness incarnate, you stepped with your grandness into my life when I needed you the most. You bore the weight of a life that was meant to soften your heart. It taught you lessons of a weathered, shipwrecked soul with its absence. Yes, we both were shipwrecked, on the same island, hiding from one another in lives that didn’t fit the grandness of our spirit.
Thank you for searching for what makes you happy all the time. If you had not been on the quest to be a master of life, enthralled by the beauty of the world’s untamable landscape, our paths would never have crossed.
We were bonded at the time the Universe divided into fractals of self-reflection. We are primordial connection, we are earth and fire. They bring life when they are joined in the heat of sacred union. We are love. We create together.
Thank you for creating a life that is exciting, aware, and tenderly fragile in the darkness. Perfection lies in our moments of full exposure, when we fear the magic of our bond will somehow be stolen from us. We will even fight one another to preserve its perfection.
I absolutely adore you. You are everything to me.
I was closed, afraid of the scent of a fresh morning. I reveled in the perpetual shame of being incompletely yolked with the monsters that were welcomed under my sheets. Then in your heroic quintessence, your unconditional love transported me away from the warzone.
Thank you for making me the best, worst, most invested, excited, nervous, shy, sex crazed woman in her full-bodied, unapologetically voluptuous and ripened state of being.
The fruit is yours for the taking.
Thank you for being you. The silly, sweet, brilliant, sexy, maddening, best father and husband a woman could ever want.
In the beginning there was heat. The heat emanated from their hearts and their sacred organs for body worship. Poems, sonnets, and songs radiated from their lips as they danced on the cloud of newness. They tasted the nectar of the gods with each delicate act of love. They chased time with their all-night rendezvous lasting for what seemed to be only a moment, and it was very good.
Wait a minute. It WAS good? What about it still is good? You mean those mind-blowing all-nighters, nooners, morning quickies, and sixty-nine sessions are finished?!
As a relationship matures, the inevitability of the first flush waning can become disappointing to a romantic. It is a time when lives merge and reality sets in. This is just as explosive as the physical bonding that takes place, but it is present in the alchemical changes that are taking place as you both step into a new reality together. A common misconception is that the intimate magician within you and your lover must make way for the still waters of stability.
Life has its rhythms. People grow, revert, change ideas and evolve. As this symphony unfolds, you may find a pensive or inattentive mate by your side. Love making may become routine, or functional. Does this mean that the intimacy is gone?
To make love with your partner is to be by her side for life. It is hidden in the treasure of normalcy and is proven in how you support each other as you each take time to be intimate with your inner selves. As your storehouse replenishes itself, you will find your hunger for your mate increase. This is the key to the insulating your relationship with remnants of the first flush.
Look at your lover with new eyes every day. Each day there will be something different that can be observed and appreciated. Share your findings, and see where the trail leads. To be in a relationship is to be in a continual scavenger hunt for new aspects of a long-time love.
If you hold expectations over your lovers head, things will implode.
Expectations are necessary but can sometimes get in the way of deep intimacy with you and your mate. For women, intimacy begins at the moment of connection. Encouragement, reassurance, attentive care and then sex are essentials for her flower to open. She seeks to find her lover thinking and dreaming of her. She wants to be in her lover’s thoughts, actions and feelings. When this does not occur, and the everyday life threatens to diminish the spark of a relationship, it is up to her to go within and evaluate her expectations of perpetual perfection.
Conversely, a man is visually stimulated before his magician can reveal what is hidden. He desires his partner to maintain an alluring look, health in the body and mind so that he may connect fearlessly to his or her body. That being said, it is important that the intimate expectations of both parties are met healthily and do not overpower the intimacy to create a power struggle.
The heat of the first flush is always available to you and your lover. Make it interesting, make it light, and make it spectacular.
Wait not one second longer before the ember goes out. You are running out of time and no other lover will come to your rescue from the unconditional love you are already privy to. This is your love affair with the everyday unkempt, smelly, habit ridden magic that you once cried that you may not ever experience and have now have become disenchanted with. Oxygenate the tired embers that still glow even if you choose not to notice their haunting smolder. This is the call to arms, lips, hands and hearts to re-awaken the love that you once hungered for. Are you really going to let boredom rob you of what’s yours?
The love that you have with your partner is rare and will never occur again. You both stand as the only prototypes of your art with your love as the medium. You awaken to a blank canvas and an unwritten song every morning. Your routines are the symphonies of connection. Your lover’s sonnet to you is in his unwavering presence and her devotion that has become second nature. Can you see the magic of love? Can you taste its salty-sweet nectar?
Do not give into believing the lies that love is always romantic, orgasms are always easy, and that problems are solved at the end of a twenty-two minute segment after an orange juice commercial. This is real life. Love is gritty, vulnerable with ugly messy cries and sweaty nights of passion. It is the teamwork of financial problem solving and child rearing. It is the hand holding even when you think your partner is wrong as it is you being held when you are devilishly hateful. Life is most exciting without the comfort of a safety net. Love is the other-worldly tandem trapeze act that is your greatest art form even if it looks like flannel pajama bottoms and tousled hair.
It is time for you to connect to the daredevil within to forgive past resentments and release lofty expectations. Look beyond annoyances and zoom right over the edge of the cliff onto the other side of vulnerable, tenderly soft-hearted love. This is the love that makes you remember why his eyes can speak to you without the movement of his mouth, and how that little spot under her nose is the most comforting vision you have ever experienced. There are still hidden treasures that you are meant to discover.
Give gratitude to all that your lover does and attempts to do. This exchange will create so much prosperity, it will not be able to be contained in your hearts or even your home. With such a palpable energy, you can change the state of non-functioning aspects of your relationship and inspire others around you to do the same.
This love is the only language that no one will ever know. It is your secret, exclusive rendezvous behind the velvet rope of the creator realm. The power of the universe emanates from within you at the exact same frequency as the love of your life. Comparing such a treasure to the watered down version of life that is emulated through your perception of other people’s happiness is the greatest disservice to the Universe’s creative expression through you. Live through your own brand of love, love yourself, become better at loving through your own lessons learned, and wrap your arms and legs around the reality that love is work with explosively pleasurable results.
Hiding your heart, your flaws, and shortcomings is the easy way out. It may not seem that way when you and your lover come to blows and the collateral damage is your security imploded. You each expose your villainous intention of being right or more powerful than the other, hurl judgments, and bicker all in the name of making the other see your point (that 20 years from now will be a point of humor).
There has got to be a better way to get real.
Letting a person love you for your personal super powers is a very easy, ego building task, but it is like falling in love with a picture on the wall or a character in your favorite movie. That snapshot of you is a two dimensional specter of your actual self, compiled from years of study about what a partner finds valuable and is easy to love. The gravity of love abounds when the mascara stained, hand ringing, brick walled stoicisms, and defense mechanisms act as guides to a common goal: deeper commitment and even better eruptions of sexual, emotional, and other forms of mutual fulfillment.
Sometimes the difficulty is not in loving someone with shortcomings so brazenly exposed; it is being loved for your own. Being loved while being unlovable is one of the most painful tasks and humbling realities one could ever face. You may look at your idiosyncrasies, bad habits and personality flaws and think “No one would ever love that,” as you hide the greatest aspect of your uniqueness away. Letting yourself release the guise of perfection is one of the greatest acts of courage that you will ever experience. It requires you to stop perpetuating the lie that a person has to be perfect or well-liked in order to be fully loved.
Getting passed the gate keeper of your soul while attached in a relationship is the difficulty (that is also an opportunity) that will eventually hone your communication skills from grating dissonance to sublime harmony. Defenses do the worst damage because they never have your best interests in mind but make you think they do. They sneak into past moments of heartbreak and impregnate themselves in scar tissue, only to be born as monsters under your bed – usually when you feel the most secure. One may or may not choose to recognize their presence but eventually they require your attention. Otherwise, they feed on words spoken in jest that are misunderstood, they use your mouth to complain about quality of life, or any other lack of fulfillment that is not the direct responsibility of the other party. They make you feel bored with what you think you already know about the person you have chosen to stand alongside throughout life.
Defenses are pollutants that permeate the air with contention between you and your partner and are paradoxically the poisons that make us feel safe. When can one peel away the layers and expose the frighteningly fragile, fucked-up, ethereal unique beauty that is as volatile as an exploding sun, but as constant as time itself?
Establishing a relationship with yourself, connecting to your darker aspects, and expanding your sense of personal awareness is the greatest ally against shadow-boxing ghosts of your past that usurp your joy and wear your lover’s skin like a costume. Love is not only in the rose-colored, orgasmic first-flushed bliss that is easy to experience and makes others envy your flushed faced pheromone output. It is present in the dim lit future, the uncertainty, and unexpected tragedies. It is the freezing cold exposure of your absolute worst self-celebrated with the warming torches of honesty, commitment, and the courage to still embark on the processional of the unknown. To experience one more day with the one you adore, is perfection itself. You don’t have to bear the weight of what is already present.
Life is a spiral without time. Time is applied to the physical world and our bodies become the keepers of time. If we look at life and our relationship with it beyond time, we see the poetic depth of a teaching that offers itself to us as deep understanding. There are times in our lives when we question who we are; we may search for the reasons why things happen. We perform outward tasks to gain merit, to find a mate, to succeed and to survive. These ambitions of proof are all pathways to a greater attainment of wisdom in our consciousness if we open our hearts to their truth.
Life is a fight… Life is hard. We enter into the world with a sense of purity, innocence, and a living smile on our face completely unaware of what we have gotten ourselves into while we try to make our lives outside of ourselves. We live according to culture, tradition and ambition. Doors close and others open. Sometimes the wear and tear of disappointment kills the gifts that we take for granted (like the living smiles on our faces and the barefoot carefree nature of our childhood souls). Failures are inevitable in a world of right and wrong, black and white, and good and bad. While we are alive, we know that our actions will hurt someone. There is no one exempt from failure or loss. The reaction to failure outside of ourselves is judgment and a remembrance of it that will never be forgotten. The spiral spins downward while everyone watches. Conversely, our victories can be met with the same fervor, but then we must contend with the upward spiral of hero worship, high expectations, and a continual pressure of duplicating the first victory until perfection is attained. This is the nature of the outer world without buffers, in its starkly naked reality. On either side of the outward spiral, there are difficulties and we must know how to transcend them.
There is a miraculous moment of dawning in our lives that is available to us instantly and infinitely if we know where to find it. It does not require us to be “properly educated,” it seeks the minds or hearts of kings and queens the same as it seeks the mind and heart of the orphan. It is the inward spiral.
The inward spiral is your transportation above the fray. It is the nature of connection to all things beyond the constructs of life’s politics. It is the highest teacher, the greatest friend, and is the wisest sage. It is the universe within you, and the mind behind all that you see without you. Creating a relationship with it may be difficult at first. You will have to get past the gate keeper of your ego’s defenses. You will have to look at your failures, take responsibility for your choices, and forgive yourself. You will have to cease judging others and see all living things as an aspect of you. You will have to clear away the thicket to see the rising sun and bask in its warmth. When you do all those things, you will find a doorway to the opening of your heart. You will see yourself as you truly are: completely whole.
You are made by your experiences, both positive and negative, but you are not defined by them. You are in the world but you don’t have to acquiesce to its frivolities or fight it’s battles with an eye for an eye. You are in the presence of the moment, you are a miracle. When you turn the spiral of life from spiraling outward to inward, you suddenly make all of creation available to you and you will be available to all of it.
This is the mastery of life.
Everything outside of yourself is not enough to make you happy. Nothing that spirals out of you will nourish you unless you are nourished by the rich garden of the conscious mind.
There are two inevitabilities in relationships. The first is that there will be love. The love will be hot, exciting, deep and passionate. The second is that there will be hurt. The hurt will be personal, whether it is inadvertent or intentional. The classification of it being inadvertent or intentional depends on the lover’s perceptions. What can be seen as something benign may harken back to a past memory of a life before the life each party presently knows. The lovers then shadow box with their perceived notions and inadvertently TKO one another’s hearts.
In relationships, what is available to you and your lover is not just your redeeming qualities, your sexual prowess and your abilities to get ahead in the world. Your vulnerabilities, habits, insecurities and emotional blind spots are brought to the table as well. Your hurts and heartaches of love lost and conditioning you were raised under plays an integral role in your success/ fullness in your current relationship role. When you are ready for commitment in relationship, you are ready to accept all things within yourself whether they be positive or negative. You perceive them as what they are, aspects of your uniqueness and you see the same in your partner. If you are not ready for commitment in your relationship, you find those vulnerabilities as “deal breakers” in your partner and you ignore your own personal frailties – citing them as weakness and become a slave to self-judgment and other people’s opinions about your relationship.
Perception can become a house of mirrors by eliciting games with what you see and hear as truth from excess baggage left in your heart and mind. We all carry the war wounds of our past with us wherever we tread. According to the hurt, we set our course. At crucial times of change, the unresolved specters of our former being channel through us and change our vision, change our perspective. This creates our present reality unless we recognize who or what we are truly fighting against. A loving gesture could be perceived as threat, and a threat could be perceived as a loving gesture.
It is important to know who you are and resolve your inner war before you take it from its place of origination into a new world of dysfunction. This is how patterns of abuse are perpetuated. What we perceive in our present relationships as troublesome, is likely the same healing that needs to take place. Fighting is just a symptom.
What needs healing in your life? How can you grow beyond the pain that only you truly understand? Look within and begin to honestly address the release of some hurt through counseling, healing work, and connecting to the innocence you had before your heartbreak. Follow the path by activating catharsis in your life through projects and goals that are healing and empowering to you. Express your pain to the person who actually hurt you with compassionate dialogue, letter writing, or any other form of self-expression, whether you directly address the person or not, so that you take your forgiveness to a whole new level. Be optimistic for the life you live now, but be willing to learn the lessons given. Everyone can identify with hurt in a relationship, but it is from hurting others when it is unintended that one discovers empathy, compassion and healing.
Whether you see your skeletons in your closet rear their heads or see your lover hurt your heart, perceive those events as opportunity for positive change.
She sat in my office with a mask on. She smiled, cried tears, shot her hands enthusiastically through the air in agreement with all that I advised. She pointed the finger at her daughter’s youthful beauty as the enemy. Venomous with her words, she justified her abuse of alcohol with her past, and carried a fantasy of narcissistic perfection to her bosom. She never realized that her hands around her daughter’s throat changed their relationship. She was the victim, she had hurt and no one else’s hurt mattered – not even her daughter’s. She had never dealt with her past responsibly and found her solace in alcohol. Her daughter looked upon her with frightful eyes, and a stoic resignation. Her mom was bent on “taking over the world” with her victim mentality, desiring to become famous off of her daughters sorrowful story of bulling. She never thought twice about the destruction she has caused her family. Knowing she was only a specter in my office, I gave her my best advice. I saw through her promises to commit to healing, and knew that she would never sit in my presence again.
The mind of the victim is a vacuous space filled with thoughts of “us against them.” Every step through life is a struggle and those that remain in this mental lock-down wear their past on their sleeves. For those that can only relate to this world of distress and drama, it can become a pleasurable experience to struggle because it is the only method of acquiring attention. Their hope is a mask of self-pity even though it is a pathway for more disappointment.
What is your relationship with your hurts and your past? Moments of disappointment, loss, pain and struggle are seminal moments in our relationship with life that define our attitudes, decisions, and even our desires. Hopes for the future are based on particular aversions to situations past and the present moment is used to exude a force field of toughness or any other suitable mask. If one can build a relationship with his past hurts, he will be able to feel free enough to live life without a safety net of emotional armor.
Destructive cycles are created when a person chooses to be a victim to the trauma of her past. If you allow the lesser moments of your life dictate your present and future, you are reliving the hurt you experienced and guaranteeing its perpetuation. By incorporating a deep sense of optimism through hopefulness, a belief in yourself, and most importantly self-respect, this sense of optimism can carry you through any struggle and will attract more stability in your life. People will want to help an authentically hopeful person. Hope teaches us to cope, enables us to see more deeply into our hurts, and empowers us to transcend our fears.
Victim mentality has many guises that do not appear to be as destructive as first presented. It is a conscious decision to keep your hands tied because of personal pride, fear of what others think, blindly believing what you are taught and told, lying to protect another persons indiscretions, making excuses for addictive behavior, making excuses for other peoples disrespectful infractions against you, cowering from taking a stand and much more. We see these acts of self-victimization in everyday social pleasantries. They are the elements of relationships that can be life altering in ways unrealized when first acted on. We must be able to take care of our needs before attempting to understand the needs of others. We must employ a faith in our fellow human in order to have self-respect. We must take a stand in what we believe in, hold others lovingly accountable for indiscretions and employ compassion in all circumstances. By commanding our world in such a way, we are strong at the helm and are able to see clearly through the rough waters of life.
If you are a person that believes that by playing the role of the victim you are going to be given the attention that you have always wanted, think again. That is a road of turmoil that will manifest more turmoil. It is a draining energy that people can sense long before you enter a room. Facades have very low structural integrity. In other words, people can see right through them. Playing the victim is an infringement upon the human spirit and an affront to the gift of life. Begin detoxing from your love of drama by first taking responsibility for the mistakes you have made in your life. Be compassionate with yourself and know that you are not alone in making such mistakes. It is also imperative to understand that you are not alone in your struggles and that there is most definitely someone in the world that struggles more than you. If you find them, do not try to top them with your struggle, serve them. Serve with a loving heart and open to a new world of fulfillment. This is the time of no excuses. Take a stand in your life against your listless self. Make promises you can keep, and keep the hope alive by attending presently to your responsibilities of self-care, care of others, and the cultivation of a new path.
Breaking cycles is never easy, but in order for a new day to be created, there must be a new dawning in the making. Your letting go of anger, pain, sorrow, and hate (which are the end results of victim mentality) is your path to transcendence and the most selfless act that you could ever perform.
Live authentically. Live with intention.
Watching rainfall in itself is a spiritual teaching. The puddle on the ground does not say “I was here first so you must do what I say,” to the falling rain. It knows nothing of being first or best and cares not for comforts of supremacy.
The ocean in its vast beauty does not say “Rain in the clouds should not fill our grandness, it is only a cloud. We hold the true essence of all nature under the sea! The cloud is different and we should not mix, for such a union is distasteful and will corrupt our purity.”
The innocence of the rain, the welcoming puddle, and the wise ocean each know that they are one in the same, connected through the cyclical beauty of life and in calming peace they join one another harmoniously.
Oh what beautiful things humankind can learn from watching the rain fall.
Nature is one of the greatest teachers of peace. It sets the example of a life of meaning free from the fraught of egotism, but firmly present in the world. Nothing can stop the rain from falling, nothing can stop the tree from growing. What is stopping you from living inner and outer peace? If we were to cultivate a relationship with all that is around us, we would understand peace beyond diplomacy; we would embody it in the unity that we re-discover through the connectedness of all things.
The idea of creating and perpetuating peace is in accord with what we believe is going on in the world and what we believe about the unknown world. Our relationship with what is above us, manifests how we behave in the human experience. If a god above us presiding over “heavens” so dictates, we carry out his bidding to attain favor. War, peace, love and even hate are our demonstration of loyalty to an invisible force that is likely not there. The god within us in the form of the life force that binds us in unity. This is the true master of the world, and our bodies the interpreter.
Whether you decide if that includes a direct-report god or not is up to you.
Our relationship with the world is reflective of what we believe are the desires of god. In the attempt to fathom a concept, energy, manifestation, idea and any other facet of existence that god represents, we barely visage the reality that the only god we are truly meant to understand and seek is the one that is within and to discover it’s presence without. We contain a cross section of the universe within the temple of our bodies. What we think we become; what we desire we create. This is why it is essential for us to truly know ourselves, and build relationships with the holistic aspects of life, holding reverence for the smallest carriers of the divine in all that we experience and seek peace in all circumstances.
Having a relationship with the principle of peace is an individual sacred path that is set without dogmatism and religion. Like knowledge being a hindrance to wisdom, dogmatism is a hindrance to peace. Dogmatic behaviors and blind obedience are synthetic forms of spiritual union that are based in fear and misunderstanding. It creates division within its prisoners, and the prisoners manifest it in the world. If one truly wishes to manifest peace in the world, she must be unafraid to live without a safety net; to see the world without religion, without a “one true” god, and find the divinity in all things great and small. This is the path to perpetual unity. This separation from the world counterfeits suffering, but in the core of it’s truth, it breeds wisdom and joy. Just because the world depends on you to be obedient to its well oiled machine, doesn’t mean you must be its subordinate. Being mindfully present, sharing compassion, wisdom and peace and love is an empowering beacon of light that will never grow dim and is the antidote to such modes of suffering.
This is your time to break away from that which does not serve you, and seek peace in all that surrounds you above, below, within and without.