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“Self-love and self-care are a ‘delicious cycle’. The more self-love we discover, the better we want to take care of ourselves; and the more we care for ourselves, the more self-love we will uncover in the process.”

-Asante George  

What does it truly mean to beautiful?

I am almost certain that every person reading this will answer the question differently. We all have our own perceptions of beauty and we all want to live up to the standards of those perceptions. The only problem with this is that our perceptions are typically unreal and therefore, unattainable. We put so much emphasis on being an unattainable ideal, we forget what the essence of real beauty is.

What if I told you that you were a goddess with incredible beauty and insurmountable power?

For many years, beauty was something I felt as if I lacked. To me, it was a foreign concept that I could only grasp if I were a little more ‘this’ or a little less ‘that’. I suffered with feelings of low self-worth. After reaching a point where my own true nature was completely unrecognizable to me, I embarked on a journey to discover the authentic me that was buried deep within.

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Holistic health empowerment

is not avoidance of a health issue, nor is it the extreme imbalance through the refusal of wellness methods that may assist you in your healing journey.  If you have fears or concerns about your health care provider, seek one that is well versed in the holistic path.  There are many naturopathic doctors that are also medical doctors.  They will help you to acclimate to a lifestyle of healing while honoring your beliefs.  You have the right to choose your doctor.

An important aspect of holistic wellness is knowing your options, both allopathic and holistic, before making important decisions regarding your medical condition or preserving your health.  A Passive relationship with your doctor and/or your symptoms is not a guarantee for the best treatment or optimum health.  It is important for you to be aware of medical advances, recalls, side effects and other factors that will help you in maintaining your well-being. Working in concert with your doctor will create a relationship of mutual respect and free flowing information.

Research:

Doing important research on pharmaceuticals related to your condition could be the difference between life and death.  Many pharm companies produce medicines that cover more than one ailment and subsequently treat a wide variety of health issues. Research the effects of the drug on previous patients specific to your condition and weigh the long-term cost of the effects it may have on your body.

It is also imperative that you research your doctor.  Does your doctor specialize in your health status? Know your health history when you go for your annual visit and be ready to ask pointed questions about the outcomes of other patients your prospective doctor has seen.

Do the Work:

Your health care begins with you, not when you are preparing for a doctor visit two weeks before.  Take care of your health with regular exercise, healthy eating, and well-managed emotions.  Make the grocery store your pharmacy, and fresh air a daily ritual. Hydrate your body and feed your mind positive messages.  Treat yourself with the utmost of sacred care.  When the time comes to visit with your doctor you will be relaxed and appreciative of your endeavors to better health.

Decisions, Decisions: 

Every health decision is a step toward a day without pain. Your life is precious and each aspect must come into account for your total health.  Seek to make your decisions in a global way that will benefit your mental-emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being.  Each aspect of you needs to remain in harmonious balance in order for your quality of life to remain beneficial.

 

The Tumeric Miracle! 

 

When I lay in bed at night, I think of all I accomplished during the day, things I could have done or said differently…things I hope for tomorrow.

 

I like to explore ideas and figure out exactly where I stand on issues of the day. I consider my stance on body image. I mull over the level of poverty in my neighborhood, in my state, in my country, in the world. I focus on big solutions for little problems such as build tiny houses for the homeless. These whiz through my brain at a million miles an hour like a constant hum of distant activity that I can’t quite pin down. It sometimes gets worse when the lights go out.

As I watch others struggling with similar issues in their heart-minds, it occurs to me that being in the now, being mindful, is meaningful to me. The woulda-coulda-shouldas are distractions from what’s really happening. They are ways my mind tells me that I’m ditching out on things all day long (even though they’re there) so that I can survive. I build up a dam of “Yes, sir. No, sir” all day and in the still of the night my mind has a chance to breathe the emotions I’ve suppressed during the day. It’s the larger than life minutia that builds frustration, anxiety, misdeeds mishandled and things that cause the water to break through the dam.

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I remember as a student in writing class this directive was drilled into my head: Show don’t tell. Over and over I’d get papers handed back to me with red marks screaming it at me. I hated that teacher with the keen passion that only a young student can express. But those words held far more wisdom beyond writing in junior high school.

Those words have become a life lesson for me. They have taught me that I could tell you all day long about the me I want you to see. I could wave my fancy feathered fan in front of my naked body teasing you with glimpses of who I really am. I could rip off my spiritual bindings, groaning with effort and continued fear that I’ll not be perceived as blameless as I wish.

Show me who you are.

Don’t just tell me with clever slogans because those are the thoughts of someone else. Using a lack authenticity  to describe oneself  limits a person to the level of mediocrity, labels, and acceptance of someone else’s beliefs.

Who are you quoting?

I don’t want to be remembered with someone else’s words on my lips. My own actions are a reflection of my spirit. I do not intentionally set out to change the world, it just happens because my intent is  like a fire, fully engaged in whatever I’m doing. I require blazes of activity to spark up via conversations, actions, laughter, outrage towards injustice, or by committing random acts of kindness. I want to be remembered as someone who mattered to someone else as much as I matter to me.

I’d like for someone to make a graphic about me that reads, Man, if only you’d known her. She was a fireball like none other. Even though she gave up a lot, she wasn’t a quitter. She’d fight to the bitter end for whatever she believed in and without even realizing it, you’d be right there with her. She was trustworthy in action and word.

We’re all in this together.

Human to human, elbow to elbow, what shall we do? What beliefs do you wish to leave as your legacy? What can you give to the world that is unique to solely you?  Bring that gift to the table of manifestation as a dish to pass to along in your community. Fan out your peacock tail with glorious display because you’re necessary, valuable, and worth more than a few words with a pretty picture attempting to capture your essence. Go on, show all of us, don’t just tell us who you are. We’re waiting.

I am in the most hermetic phase of the summer now.

The temperatures in Phoenix are in the triple digits, tempers flare, cars overheat, dust storms roll through. My tendency at this time of year is to curl up in bed with a good book and an iced coffee, and wait out the heat. I teach my online summer course. I exercise,  cook, do course prep for fall. I clean out my closets. I write. In the dark, cool womb of my house, my animals gather in a semi-circle around me and we enjoy our sloth together, tucked in and safe from the chaos of the outside world.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I don’t care what’s going on. I do. In fact, I think I care too much. My heart is too kind. I often feel much too fragile to navigate the ugliness and difficulty that has become the common thread of contemporary life. I’ve realized that some battles are not worth the time or energy they take. The older I get the more I understand that I must channel my time and energy into things that I want to see happen.

Things that disturb me, upset me, or cause my blood pressure to rise, are things I actively avoid. You see, no matter how bad I feel about poverty, injustice, hunger, killing or war — focusing on them actually entrenches them —  rather than makes them better. My feeling bad about the horror and strife and hatred in the world will not make those things disappear. I can never feel bad enough to make the world feel good as a result.

Change the way you see the world, and the world you see will change.

Let’s face it: the outside world is ablaze with recrimination and hatred right now. As a result, I don’t watch anything on the news — not because I don’t think the war in Gaza is a horrible crime against humanity or that devastating gun violence, murder, and domestic abuse doesn’t exist.  I know what’s out there. I don’t watch because those issues don’t deserve even one fraction of a fraction of a fraction of my attention or time. They’re a symptom of what’s tearing this world up: inhumanity toward all living creatures. The perpetrators lack any semblance of empathy or care or feeling for others. And because I do not want to give energy to things I do not want to see more of, I am doing my level best to put my focus on things that are actually fostering change.

Fighting against things doesn’t change things.  

Working toward things changes things. Constructive dialogue, collaboration and cooperation change things. That’s not just semantics. The energetic signature of something you are opposed to is completely different than something you actively support. One mindset traps the energy in regret, remorse and resistance. The other frees the energy to move in the direction you want to go.

What you resist, persists.

So, if you wonder why I am here at my keyboard rather than out on the street corner holding an angry sign, don’t misconstrue my intentions or my commitment to change.

There is much I am outraged over and much I want to see change. I am for equality, kindness, joy, education, the social safety net, and health care for all citizens. I am for my taxes going to helping the least among us. I want to see women paid on par with men. I want to see racism disappear. I want marriage equality for everyone who loves another person and wants to get married. I want our laws to protect us all — not just a select few.

I want to close our prisons and open more schools. I want us to spend $40K on each student in school instead of spending that amount incarcerating people who’ve been thrown away. Did you know that more African American men are currently in jail than were held in slavery?

I want us to embrace common sense and get guns out of the hands of the criminally insane.

I want a sustainable future, a clean environment, a warm place to rest. I want to trust the food I am eating hasn’t been showered in enough pesticides to kill me. I want to walk into the future with collaborative, kindred spirits who are ready to build a better world.

There is no time left to waste on pettiness or mind games.

What you focus on, increases.  

What are you going to do to make a change? We cannot transform our lives using the same mindset that created the status quo.

We’re living in a whole new paradigm. Anything’s possible.

And what about those among us who are hellbent on taking the world backwards?

They won’t win their fight against progress, kindness, mercy and care. Resistance is, indeed, futile.

So, if you are like me, protect your light.

We’ll need it for the road ahead.